Sometimes, when moaning about unfairness, reading a book like this one
really teaches you what fair is. Half the things in this book my brain
couldn't even fathom let alone try to relate to what the women if
Afghanistan go through. And as hard as it was to read, I think it truly
was an important read.
The author, Zarghuna Kargar, is from
Afghanistan. They fled when she was young and ended up in Europe where
she started working for the BBC and their radio programs. Most
specifically, she helped start a program called the Afghan Women's hour
which showcased stories from women around Afghanistan. It featured
their jobs, troubles, and important topics of the day. From these
stories she chose a few to write this book showing different troubles
the women of Afghanistan has. And in between, she intersperses her own
story, that of a woman who's in a "western" civilization but was still
forced to go through an arranged marriage and her struggles with it.
The
stories of the women in here are heartbreaking. The amount of
suffering they have to go through is overwhelming and they must be a
very strong culture in order for the women to survive it. Here, if
someone gets a bad grade on a test they can go into complete breakdown.
In Afghanistan a woman can be married off, raped, beaten every day, and
still not be able to complain about it. And the different stories in
this book were all very moving. Zari (Zarghuna) herself is also very
brave. She was not afraid to do what it took to get these stories and
deal with her own trouble of an arranged marriage at the same time. She
is unflinching in telling these stories too. Most people might try to
soften it for a reader, but Zari, like a true reporter, tells it as it
happened, which I think is respectful to the people who's stories are
contained here.
The style is mainly one of short stories, but
they are all connected. The tales range from being sold to repay a
debt, to being widowed, and falling in love (which is forbidden for most
women in Afghanistan). And they are hard topics. It could be too much
for people, I know I had tears running down my face as I was reading
this book. My only real complaint of the book has nothing to do with
the tragic stories within though. It was more the way it was put
together. The short stories were a little too short and bounced about a
bit. It was hard to maintain focus, especially since the book made you
want to read it in short bits already because of the sadness.
A
sad, tragic book. But well worth reading. If nothing else these
women's voices need to be heard, and this book makes sure that happens.
Dear Zari
Copyright 2012
250 pages
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